While both sexes may have trouble displaying their feelings and emotions, it is particularly difficult for the male gender. Males are expected to be the tough guy, the guy a woman can depend on, a hero to their kids, and an overall champion. This can put extreme pressure on men to not show their vulnerabilities, or express any sign of what we think is weakness or emotion. Here are some signs or goals that can be reached for men to show that they are and can be emotionally mature.
They are open to communicate their feelings. This is a huge step most men are afraid to take, but if he can openly discuss how he is feeling with someone he can trust, or can write about them, he is on the way to emotional maturity.
He creates time for his partner. Making time and space for conversations, and being available to his partner without confrontation or judgment when they need you is a sign of maturity. It means staying and listening or participating when he wants to leave.
He is aware of the fight or flight patterns. When difficult situations arise, the natural instinct is either to fight or engage it, or run and leave the situation. These can both be potentially harmful and can escalate the damage. Recognizing and dealing with emotions and situations is healthier and will lead to greater stability.
These signs present the hints of emotional maturity and stability, or they can be goals in which to strive for in order to reach emotional maturity. I may be difficult at first as society teaches men the opposite ways to “be men,” but it can be accomplished with practice and recognition.