Contempt is a hurtful and dangerous component in relationships. Actually, studies have shown that couples who feel and display contempt for one another are guaranteed to fail. Contempt can spring up when fights and issues occur and they are mishandled, leading down a dark and dangerous road to eventually find this negative component.
Contempt is a mix of anger and disgust, two emotions that can readily appear when two partners are fighting or disagreeing. It has also been called a “superiority complex,” when both partners feel that they are correct which can cause dismissal of each other’s opinions and feeling, neither of them ever backing down.
Fighting and arguing will be constant within the presence of contempt. Nothing ever gets resolved, harboring angry feelings and setting up the couple for a fight in the near future. Eye rolling, dismissive gestures and responding to get your point across rather than responding because you listened to what your partner had to say are all factors that cause contempt.
Practicing seeing each other’s point of view and perspective is a way to get contempt to back down. Taking a deep breath and stepping back from a potentially hostile situation and considering your partners point of view will help get rid of the situation that can result in contempt. Genuinely listening to your partner rather than just hearing them makes an incredible difference in attitude and communication skills. Contempt is the number one killer of relationship, and taking steps to diffuse this factor may help save your relationship.