Everyone in a relationship will find themselves, at some point or another, arguing and even fighting. There are healthy ways to argue, and it is normal and god for the relationship to be able to speak and to listen. What if you feel your relationship is failing? With some work, you can learn to change your mindset, and possibly save your relationship if you are willing to try.
Do you remember what you were fighting about? After it is all said and done, many couples do not. Fights tend to leave someone feeling as the victim, and in some cases both partners feel this way. Relationships take work, and taking responsibility for your actions and working on you will help change your mindset and open new doors you thought were once closed.
Take responsibility for your actions. Stop focusing on your partner’s faults, methods, accusations, blame, and focus on you. Be open to healing and appreciate and respect your partner with no expectations. Make them feel loved, appreciated, and wanted, and you will see your relationship start to change.
Decide that you want to and will save your relationship. By shifting your mindset to “I can,” rather than “it’s their fault,” or “it’s my fault,” will shift the negative energy away. Decide that you will do what it takes to see that your relationship or marriage succeeds, and you might be surprised that your partner jumps on board. Stop feeding the negative thoughts and change to a positive outlook, and your relationship will transform.